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Tuesday, September 15, 2009
What's Your EQ?
What is your EQ? This post follows up our class discussion on Emotional Inelligence Please review this article entitled "Teaching Emotional Intelligence In The Business School Curriculum" by Frank Bellizzi, Quinnipiac University. Then, check out this self test. Please create a post that makes application to our class discussions, assigned readings,and the results of your self test. The blog post should share your top two "personal" EQ improvements. What needs to be improved to develop your emotional intelligence? Share with us your personal strategies and/or plans to put them into action. Blog comment is due by Tuesday, September 22 at the start of class.
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Score:45
DescriptionAccording to your self-report answers, your emotional intelligence is very poor. People who score like you do feel that they have trouble dealing with their own emotions and those of others. They struggle to overcome difficulties in their lives and they are unable to control their moods. It’s hard for them to understand how best to motivate themselves and reach their goals. In addition, they find social interactions quite difficult, for several reasons. They may have trouble allowing themselves to get close with others, finding it difficult to be vulnerable enough to establish intimacy. They also report having trouble offering support to others, likely due to the fact that they do not understand where others are coming from or they lack ideas about how best to help. Perhaps by working on your problem areas, you can become more confident in dealing with your own emotions and those of others.
My Reaction: I feel after receiving my results of the test, that some are fairly right but some are also wrong. When it comes to feelings it is true, i do have problems when it comes to that. But it doesn't affect my relationships to the existent as they say. Most of the time I am able to help with peoples problems and emotions but I'm not the one to realize it right away how one is feeling. Unless its a close friend or family member. The EQ test I cant say is right everything they said and that this is a correct way of rating people's emotions since they were'nt completely correct with mine.
Subscale IQ score = 23
Subscale percentile = 0.01
According to your self-report answers, your emotional intelligence is very poor. People who score like you do feel that they have trouble dealing with their own emotions and those of others. They struggle to overcome difficulties in their lives and they are unable to control their moods. It’s hard for them to understand how best to motivate themselves and reach their goals. In addition, they find social interactions quite difficult, for several reasons. They may have trouble allowing themselves to get close with others, finding it difficult to be vulnerable enough to establish intimacy. They also report having trouble offering support to others, likely due to the fact that they do not understand where others are coming from or they lack ideas about how best to help. Perhaps by working on your problem areas, you can become more confident in dealing with your own emotions and those of others.
I am actually very shocked after reading my results. I know that I have had problems in the past in social situations, romantic ones in particular, but I do not feel that these are the most important relationships in my life and that they should determine that my "emotional intelligence is very poor". I'm disappointed, and feel that the test does not evaluate properly. I suppose that the two EQ areas in which I must improve are my romantic relationships, and that of those with my friends. I tend to snap often, getting angry and frustrated. I dwell upon small things that are in actuality not as important as they seem to be at the time. I should take the time to recognize who my true friends and loved ones are and work on not taking my frustrations out on them. Still, overall, I do not feel that this test reflects my emotional health accurately and I would not recommend it.
Subscale IQ score = 16
Subscale percentile = 0.01
According to your self-report answers, your emotional intelligence is very poor. People who score like you do feel that they have trouble dealing with their own emotions and those of others. They struggle to overcome difficulties in their lives and they are unable to control their moods. It’s hard for them to understand how best to motivate themselves and reach their goals. In addition, they find social interactions quite difficult, for several reasons. They may have trouble allowing themselves to get close with others, finding it difficult to be vulnerable enough to establish intimacy. They also report having trouble offering support to others, likely due to the fact that they do not understand where others are coming from or they lack ideas about how best to help. Perhaps by working on your problem areas, you can become more confident in dealing with your own emotions and those of others.
I have to say that my EQ score was surprisingly low. I felt that I had emotional problems, but I feel as though the test made it seem like I was some type of emotional wreck. However there are some points that I agree with. For one, I do I agree that I have trouble controlling my mood at times. Sometimes I feel so down, and it affects my behavior and how I go about my day. I always say that I am so easily defeated, and I feel the only way that I’m going to do this is force myself to remain possible. It seems pretty impossible for a stressed person to think positive but I will just have to surround myself with positive and optimistic people to help me achieve a positive attitude.
Another area that I have trouble in is self motivation. I am the biggest procrastinator and it takes me very long to start on a goal I have set for myself. I think a reason for this is because I am so easily defeated, and as a way to hold off feelings of pressure, and failure, I will out off things. This in turn makes me feel anxious so it’s not even an effective technique. I think that if I surrounded myself with encouraging people who were really working hard and modestly achieving there goals, that I would feel motivated to do the same
Subscale IQ score = 39
Subscale percentile = 0.01
Basically, I personally thought this evaluation was pretty obnoxious. The questions were either so broad that there was no definite answer that applied to all walks of the questions, or so precise that there was only one possible logical answer that wasnt exactly what I wanted to say, at least in my case. All that aside, 39 apparently is very poor. Looking at Irvs, Lisas, and Angels scores though I must be really really happy? Again, I blame the innadequecy of the evaluation. I dont feel depressed or anything like that. Sure I have my bad days but everyone does, examining my life as it is now in my head, I guess I could work on some things, being more social perhaps, and not saying things I will regret later. But other than that I think life is going pretty ok, (oh and I can study more too). Ive always loved dealing with people and stuff so I still stand by my answer of being able to read people in MOST situations, in some im a complete noob. Which btw is an example of one of the questions that you couldnt really answer 100% accurately. I think this score reflects certain aspects of me but I do not feel as if it is a spot-on breakdown of my emotional intelligence.
- Nick
Self-report Component
Subscale IQ score = 98
Subscale percentile = 47
* below average
Okay, so according to this quiz
people who score like me feel that their ability to understand and deal with their own emotions and those of others is just barely acceptable. - not true, i think i handle my emotions and my problems extremely weel, im usually calm and collected and have overcame many difficult conditions for my age, that otherwise would have made me bitter and mean, diffinately not the person i am today.
Emotionally intelligent people have an easy time overcoming difficulties in their lives and they are generally able to control their moods. - this is true, but are they saying this about me?
I recognize that im not perfect, however i strongly disagree with the answer this quiz gave me by saying that i have problems with dealing with my issues adn those of others around me, im usually th one everyone comes to for advice because i take my time and anaylze what is really going on before making any assumptions, or taking any action.
Subscale IQ score = 78
Subscale percentile = 8
According to your self-report answers, your emotional intelligence is very poor. People who score like you do feel that they have trouble dealing with their own emotions and those of others. They struggle to overcome difficulties in their lives and they are unable to control their moods. It’s hard for them to understand how best to motivate themselves and reach their goals. In addition, they find social interactions quite difficult, for several reasons. They may have trouble allowing themselves to get close with others, finding it difficult to be vulnerable enough to establish intimacy. They also report having trouble offering support to others, likely due to the fact that they do not understand where others are coming from or they lack ideas about how best to help. Perhaps by working on your problem areas, you can become more confident in dealing with your own emotions and those of others.
I have to agree with this EIQ test, about 90% of this was true. It didn't tell me anything new. It has made me realize though that I must change in the sense of stressing problems and being moody and emotional.
Two tips I am going to follow are: learning to listen of how I talk to myself and learn how to relax. I will take five minutes a day to listen to myself and to think more positive about myself. This will not only make me a better person, but it will be healthier for me emotionally and physically.
-Ashley Perez
My Subscale IQ score = 87
Subscale percentile = 19
According to my self-report it stated my emotional intelligence is somewhat poor. People who score my score at times feel that they have trouble dealing with their own emotions and those of others. They sometimes struggle to overcome difficulties in their lives and they are not always able to control their moods. It may be hard for them to understand how best to motivate themselves to overcome obstacles and reach their goals. In addition, they find social interactions difficult at times, for several reasons. They may have trouble allowing themselves to get close with others, finding it difficult to be vulnerable enough to establish intimacy or perhaps lacking understanding of, or comfort with, social interactions. Perhaps by working on your problem areas, you can become more confident in dealing with your own emotions and those of others.
I was somewhat shocked by my result because I thought I can be open but it only depends on who. I do have trouble becoming close with family members and meeting strangers but eventually I open up. I guess by the description I would have to work on how to listen to the message of all emotion. But I always thought I hat to work on becoming relaxed during situation becomes sometimes I over react. On way to stay calm during situation is 1. To think it can not get any worst and 2. Become positive. 3. Not constantly think about it. Also I though I should work on how to listen because I always mishear/ misinterpret what the person said. One way to work on this issue is by repeat or summarize what the person have said so I can make sure I have understood what they have stated.
Subscale IQ score = 32
Subscale percentile = 0.01
According to your self-report answers, your emotional intelligence is very poor. People who score like you do feel that they have trouble dealing with their own emotions and those of others. They struggle to overcome difficulties in their lives and they are unable to control their moods. It’s hard for them to understand how best to motivate themselves and reach their goals. In addition, they find social interactions quite difficult, for several reasons. They may have trouble allowing themselves to get close with others, finding it difficult to be vulnerable enough to establish intimacy. They also report having trouble offering support to others, likely due to the fact that they do not understand where others are coming from or they lack ideas about how best to help. Perhaps by working on your problem areas, you can become more confident in dealing with your own emotions and those of others.
I agree with this description of my emotional intelligence.
I have trouble dealing with my emotions and those of others. I take everything seriously and little details irk me, anything can put me into a bad mood, i lack dealing with others emotions because i do not know how to deal with them if they are out of control.
It have also struggled to overcome difficulties in my life such as my parents divorce. I also struggle with my moods because some days i am happy and other days i am in bad mood however, do not express it to everyone.
I find social interactions difficult as in i do not know how to react if i have never been in that situation before.
I do have a problem getting close to others. i have been hurt before so i put a brick wall in front that only a few people can cross my wall, so this bring me to have difficult understanding situations with people that i have never been in, it is hard for me to place myself in another persons shoe, it is sometimes to give advice however i try to the best of my ability
I agree with that perhaps by working on my problem areas, I can become more confident in dealing with your own emotions and those of others.
A part that i do not agree with is when it states that i do not know how to motivate myself to achieve goals. I always try my best and motivate myself to better than most.
AS i first read this i did not agree with anything, however i put my self to thinking and i understood why i lack in some departments and excel in others. However i would guess in a million years that my emotional intelligence was that low, and i am glad that i had the opportunity to encounter the reality of my emotional intelligence.
Score:61
Subscale IQ score = 104
Subscale percentile = 61
According to your self-report answers, your emotional intelligence is slightly below average. People who score like you do feel that their ability to understand and deal with their own emotions and those of others is just barely acceptable. Emotionally intelligent people have an easy time overcoming difficulties in their lives and they are generally able to control their moods. Its easy for them to motivate themselves to overcome obstacles and reach their goals. In addition, they find social interactions to be quite easy and fulfilling, for several reasons. They are comfortable allowing themselves to get close with others, and feel comfortable being vulnerable enough to establish intimacy. They also report having an easy time offering support to others; likely due to an empathetic nature and a solid ability to offer advice. Perhaps by working on your problem areas, you can become more confident in dealing with your own emotions and those of others.
When i read this i was very shocked to know that my emotions are rated as below average but at the same rate the information that was proved how i handle social surronding was exactly how i interact with others. I know i need to work on being less social and worrying about others and focus more on my problems and situations. With that being known it will not only make me better towards myself and controlling my emotions but also able to balance the two.[My emotions and my peers]
Subscale IQ score = 128
Subscale percentile = 97
According to your self-report answers, your emotional intelligence is good. People who score like you do feel that they have little trouble understanding and dealing with their own emotions and those of others. They generally are able to overcome difficulties in their lives and they are able to control their moods in all but the most trying of times. It’s easy for them to motivate themselves to overcome obstacles and reach their goals. In addition, they find social interactions to be quite easy and fulfilling, for several reasons. They are comfortable allowing themselves to get close with others, and feel comfortable being vulnerable enough to establish intimacy. They also report having an easy time offering support to others; this is likely due to an empathetic nature and a clear mind when it comes to offering good advice.
I agree with my score for the most part. I can easily overcome emotional obstacles since I don't let little things get to me. I'm able to motivate myself to do things that I do not want to do and strive to do the best at those things. I can easily tell what mood a person is in by interacting with that person and generally know what not to do to make the mood worse. I am easy to talk to and can open up when I need to so it makes interaction with people simple.
I am going to use tip 7 and 10 which are to recognize when I'm ineffective and generate a more effective response when solving problems, and to make tasks underwhelming instead of overwhelming. With these two tips I can further develop my leadership qualities in the area of dealing with schedule and team conflicts.
Subscale IQ score = 111
Subscale percentile = 79
According to your self-report answers, your emotional intelligence is average. People who score like you do feel that their ability to understand and deal with their own emotions and those of others is acceptable but could still use some improvement. Emotionally intelligent people have an easy time overcoming difficulties in their lives and they are generally able to control their moods. It’s easy for them to motivate themselves to overcome obstacles and reach their goals. In addition, they find social interactions to be quite easy and fulfilling, for several reasons. They are comfortable allowing themselves to get close with others, and feel comfortable being vulnerable enough to establish intimacy. They also report having an easy time offering support to others; likely due to an empathetic nature and a clear mind when it comes to offering good advice. Perhaps by working on your problem areas, you can become more confident in dealing with your own emotions and those of others.
I do agree and disagree with my score. It states that people who score like me feel that their ability to understand and deal with their emotions and those of others are acceptable and could use some improvement. I agree with this, because yes it is true that I could use some improvement in those areas. Sometimes instead of dealing with issues I just avoid them or say what ever. Sometimes I also find myself getting upset over little things. In addition, even though I am the person that everybody usually comes to for advice, lately I find myself not having an answer right away, but still confident that I will find one. However, the test says, if I work on my problem areas I will be confident with dealing with the emotions of others. I disagree with this part, because I am always confident of that.
Number 7
The point that the speaker made on emtional intelligence that stood out the most to me was when he mentioned being aware of your feelings. He pointed out that the faster you can realize that you are being ineffective, or the way that you are communicating is ineffective, the faster you can become productive. He said that the popular saying, "if at first you don't succed, try, try again" is actually not a good saying because it prevents you from paying attention to what you are doing wrong and realizing why you aren't getting the reaponse that you want.
He advises his listeners to generate more effective responses. He also directs us to use the following sentence: The real problem isn't...the real probelm is...(your response to the problem). He also tells us an example, one that we all are gulity of, which is when we misplace an item we continue to search in all the places that we have already discovered weren't the right places. It's the same thijng with comminucating. for example, sometimes I'm trying to explain something to someone and that person isn't understanding what i am communicating i get frustrated and i begin to yell, making the situaton even worse.
SCORE: 102
According to your self-report answers, your emotional intelligence is slightly below average. People who score like you do feel that their ability to understand and deal with their own emotions and those of others is just barely acceptable. Emotionally intelligent people have an easy time overcoming difficulties in their lives and they are generally able to control their moods. It’s easy for them to motivate themselves to overcome obstacles and reach their goals. In addition, they find social interactions to be quite easy and fulfilling, for several reasons. They are comfortable allowing themselves to get close with others, and feel comfortable being vulnerable enough to establish intimacy. They also report having an easy time offering support to others; likely due to an empathetic nature and a solid ability to offer advice. Perhaps by working on your problem areas, you can become more confident in dealing with your own emotions and those of others.
I believe that this report is decently accurate/ it is true, I don't feel comfortable being in vulnerable situations nor opening up to people upon first meetings. I am somewhat comfortable in social siutuations, but not all the time. I have a problem with intimacy and with saying "I love you" unless those words are spoken to me first simply because my father never said "i love you" unless it was rushed or mumbled. my mother always tried to hide or surpress her emotions to avoid confrentation with my father so I have learned to do the same. My father, like most men never really shows his negative emotions. therefore I usually deal with my problems on my own. The only person I can open up to is my twin sister, but still I have secrets. i do, however, believe that I am strong emotionally in other areas. I have strong self-motivation and I usually don't dewll on the negative things in my life. I am pretty optimistic, a charateristic I picked up from my mother.
Overall, I was suyrprised to see that my score was below average. i was expecting at least average.
Self-Report Component
Subscale IQ score= 133
Subscale percentile= 99
According to your self-report answers, your emotional intelligence is excellent. People who score like you do feel that they have almost no trouble understanding and dealing with their own emotions and those of others. They have an easy time overcoming difficulties in their lives and they are able to control their moods. It’s easy for them to motivate themselves to overcome obstacles and reach their goals. In addition, they find social interactions to be quite easy and fulfilling, for several reasons. They are comfortable allowing themselves to get close with others, and feel comfortable being vulnerable enough to establish intimacy. They also report having an easy time offering support to others; this is likely due to an empathetic nature and a clear mind when it comes to offering good advice.
My Reaction- I agree with my emotional intelligence for the most part. I do believe that I have no trouble getting along with people I do not know, making new friends and dealing with my and others emotions. My friends always used to tell me that I have the best advice, and they would always come to me first for advice, so that’s true. It’s kind of scary of this test actually knows me. The part where it says that I feel comfortable being vulnerable enough to establish intimacy is actually kind of true. And I have to catch myself sometimes because I don’t want to put myself in those types of situations. I can say that I need to improve on spending time on me rather than my peers. The results say that I have an easy time offering support to others, and I know I do, but I think I need to offer the same support to myself time to time. Another thing I need to improve on is my gullibility. When it comes to romantic relationships I get very weak and defenseless which makes me vulnerable. So I need to work on staying strong for me in romantic relationships.
Subscale IQ score = 78
Subscale percentile = 8
According to your self-report answers, your emotional intelligence is very poor. People who score like you do feel that they have trouble dealing with their own emotions and those of others. They struggle to overcome difficulties in their lives and they are unable to control their moods. It’s hard for them to understand how best to motivate themselves and reach their goals. In addition, they find social interactions quite difficult, for several reasons. They may have trouble allowing themselves to get close with others, finding it difficult to be vulnerable enough to establish intimacy. They also report having trouble offering support to others, likely due to the fact that they do not understand where others are coming from or they lack ideas about how best to help. Perhaps by working on your problem areas, you can become more confident in dealing with your own emotions and those of others.
After reading this evaluation I think it's fairly accurate considering that I don't like to get close to people unless I have known them for a while. I try to avoid situations where I don't feel comfortable. I don't really like to talk about how I'm feeling to people I feel I'm not close to.
I have learned from the video on emotional intelligence that we watched in class to listen to myself and my emotions and to relax. I can listen to myself 3 times a day for 5 minutes and observe how I treat myself, how I criticize myself and try to relax while doing so. I should try to talk to people about how I'm feeling when I have a problem.
My Emotional IQ score from the test is 124.
According to your self-report answers, your emotional intelligence is good. People who score like you do feel that they have little trouble understanding and dealing with their own emotions and those of others. They generally are able to overcome difficulties in their lives and they are able to control their moods in all but the most trying of times. It’s easy for them to motivate themselves to overcome obstacles and reach their goals. In addition, they find social interactions to be quite easy and fulfilling, for several reasons. They are comfortable allowing themselves to get close with others, and feel comfortable being vulnerable enough to establish intimacy. They also report having an easy time offering support to others; this is likely due to an empathetic nature and a clear mind when it comes to offering good advice.
I think the test is quite correct. I don't allow things to depress me or put me in a bad mood easily. I always look for the good in bad situations or I try to find a way to correct the problem. Life is too short to get yourself down and stressed about minor things. I also like people! =D
Score:110
Percentile:77
According to your self-report answers, your emotional intelligence is average. People who score like you do feel that their ability to understand and deal with their own emotions and those of others is acceptable but could still use some improvement. Emotionally intelligent people have an easy time overcoming difficulties in their lives and they are generally able to control their moods. It’s easy for them to motivate themselves to overcome obstacles and reach their goals. In addition, they find social interactions to be quite easy and fulfilling, for several reasons. They are comfortable allowing themselves to get close with others, and feel comfortable being vulnerable enough to establish intimacy. They also report having an easy time offering support to others; likely due to an empathetic nature and a clear mind when it comes to offering good advice. Perhaps by working on your problem areas, you can become more confident in dealing with your own emotions and those of others.
I agree with this description of my emotional intelligence. I do have the ability to understand and deal with my emotions. I also can motivate myself and over come obstacles that come in my way. It is also very easy for me to find friends i am very out going and social. This description of me was dead on and correct.
Score: 108
Percentile: 70
According to your self-report answers, your emotional intelligence is slightly below average. People who score like you do feel that their ability to understand and deal with their own emotions and those of others is just barely acceptable. Emotionally intelligent people have an easy time overcoming difficulties in their lives and they are generally able to control their moods. It’s easy for them to motivate themselves to overcome obstacles and reach their goals. In addition, they find social interactions to be quite easy and fulfilling, for several reasons. They are comfortable allowing themselves to get close with others, and feel comfortable being vulnerable enough to establish intimacy. They also report having an easy time offering support to others; likely due to an empathetic nature and a solid ability to offer advice. Perhaps by working on your problem areas, you can become more confident in dealing with your own emotions and those of others.
I am surprised by my results because during high school people used to tell me all the time that i could make them feel better when they were upset about something. I was always the first person my friends went to when they had problems. However, I do have trouble handling and understanding my own emotions because I often get conflicted and indecisive. From how I used to be when I was younger to who I am now is a big difference and I had to do it all on my own. For being a good listner and giving good advise, while also trying to pull myself out of my own situation I thought my emotional IQ would be at least average.I have always been sociable and never had a problem expressing myself to other people or in public. I do need a little help with self motivation, but I've been working on that. Overall, I dont think my results of this emotional IQ test does a good job describing me as a person.
Subscale IQ score = 75
Subscale percentile = 5
Description: According to your self-report answers, your emotional intelligence is very poor. People who score like you do feel that they have trouble dealing with their own emotions and those of others. They struggle to overcome difficulties in their lives and they are unable to control their moods. It’s hard for them to understand how best to motivate themselves and reach their goals. In addition, they find social interactions quite difficult, for several reasons. They may have trouble allowing themselves to get close with others, finding it difficult to be vulnerable enough to establish intimacy. They also report having trouble offering support to others, likely due to the fact that they do not understand where others are coming from or they lack ideas about how best to help. Perhaps by working on your problem areas, you can become more confident in dealing with your own emotions and those of others.
My reaction: the evaluation isn't entirely true but the part about my not being able to control my mood is. I often find myself losing control over the smallest thing or blowing up at my fiance for rediculous reasons. I often stress myself out things i cannot completely control such as my appearance, my grades, or peoples impressions about me. I have taken action to try and control my mood and it has seemed to decrease my level of stress dramatically.
Self-report Component
Subscale IQ score = 108
Subscale percentile = 70
* below average
According to your self-report answers, your emotional intelligence is slightly below average. People who score like you do feel that their ability to understand and deal with their own emotions and those of others is just barely acceptable. Emotionally intelligent people have an easy time overcoming difficulties in their lives and they are generally able to control their moods. It’s easy for them to motivate themselves to overcome obstacles and reach their goals. In addition, they find social interactions to be quite easy and fulfilling, for several reasons. They are comfortable allowing themselves to get close with others, and feel comfortable being vulnerable enough to establish intimacy. They also report having an easy time offering support to others; likely due to an empathetic nature and a solid ability to offer advice. Perhaps by working on your problem areas, you can become more confident in dealing with your own emotions and those of others.
I was very surprised with my score. I always thought that I could relate well to other people because I always knew how they felt or when something was wrong, but the test proves otherwise. However I always knew that it is easier for me to talk to other people about their problem than it is dealing with my own. I am a very helpful person and I jump at any chance to help others and could never use my same advice because I'm often not open to dealing with the problems. Still, overall, I feel like the test accurately explained what I've always tried to deny; I'm not as emotionally inclined with myself that I would like to think.
Jeanine
Self-report Component
Subscale IQ score = 109
Subscale percentile = 73
According to your self-report answers, your emotional intelligence is slightly below average. People who score like you do feel that their ability to understand and deal with their own emotions and those of others is just barely acceptable. Emotionally intelligent people have an easy time overcoming difficulties in their lives and they are generally able to control their moods. It’s easy for them to motivate themselves to overcome obstacles and reach their goals. In addition, they find social interactions to be quite easy and fulfilling, for several reasons. They are comfortable allowing themselves to get close with others, and feel comfortable being vulnerable enough to establish intimacy. They also report having an easy time offering support to others; likely due to an empathetic nature and a solid ability to offer advice. Perhaps by working on your problem areas, you can become more confident in dealing with your own emotions and those of others.
I feel that the description is
really accurate. It illustrated the problems that I need to work on. The first being self-motivation-doing things I can't stand. My take of action would be visualizing the outcome after completing a task. This way if i visualize how good the finish project and outcome it will motivate me to complete it. I agree, sometimes I don't find social interactions easy. So the other tip I will talk is to relax. I'll practice relaxion by mental images or phares.
Continuation from first blog post
two points that stood out to me the most were points number 7 and 8 which were humor and positive criticism.
He stated that humor was a job skill, it is an important skill to have at the work place to break the ice. It is also important because when it comes down to your boss needing to choose between the employees, he would want to choose the one he like the most and humor can get him to like you more, in which he would choose you. He also 5 ways to develop you sense of humor. They are People watching, Formal Joke Sessions, tell a person a joke to put them in a good mood, how to interject humor in anger, and exaggerating things. these five ways can be very effective and are a great way to develop a any ones sense of humor.
The second point was Number 8 which was positive criticism. positive criticism is that in which criticism is given to a person to better themselves. The intent is to educate and develop a person and not bring them down and make them angry. It also needs to be socially appropriate and not in a bad context. This was really good advice that i can take because i need to develop this skill while i am advising a person or telling my executive board feedback that is not so good
all of the points are very useful and i am going to use them in the future.
Subscale IQ score = 111
Subscale percentile = 79
According to your self-report answers, your emotional intelligence is average. People who score like you do feel that their ability to understand and deal with their own emotions and those of others is acceptable but could still use some improvement. Emotionally intelligent people have an easy time overcoming difficulties in their lives and they are generally able to control their moods. It’s easy for them to motivate themselves to overcome obstacles and reach their goals. In addition, they find social interactions to be quite easy and fulfilling, for several reasons. They are comfortable allowing themselves to get close with others, and feel comfortable being vulnerable enough to establish intimacy. They also report having an easy time offering support to others; likely due to an empathetic nature and a clear mind when it comes to offering good advice. Perhaps by working on your problem areas, you can become more confident in dealing with your own emotions and those of others.
I somewhat agree with my EQ results. I do feel as though I am average with my EQ and I could use some improvements. I have trouble dealing with my own emotions at times. I do not know if I agree with dealing with the emotions of others. Most people view their emotions as something personal. I would feel uncomfortable asking someone about their problems. Although when I sense someone is troubled I then proceed to ask, “Are you okay? What’s wrong?” Then people respond and tell me the just of their problem(s) and I follow-up with encouraging words and/or my thoughts, but I do not pry. I guess I can make an improvement by spending more time consoling that person, but not in the sense of prying. To make improvements with my EQ I need to stop holding a lot of things in. I do this because I’m used to it and I am an only child. I have always dealt with my problems by myself, but I need to break out of that shell. I need to start telling people what’s on my mind and asking for advice/help. By making this improvement I will have a better EQ and that will equip me to have a successful career in the future. After all your EQ is 80 percent of your life.
Self-report Component
Subscale IQ score = 118
Subscale percentile = 90
According to your self-report answers, your emotional intelligence is average. People who score like you do feel that their ability to understand and deal with their own emotions and those of others is acceptable but could still use some improvement. Emotionally intelligent people have an easy time overcoming difficulties in their lives and they are generally able to control their moods. It’s easy for them to motivate themselves to overcome obstacles and reach their goals. In addition, they find social interactions to be quite easy and fulfilling, for several reasons. They are comfortable allowing themselves to get close with others, and feel comfortable being vulnerable enough to establish intimacy. They also report having an easy time offering support to others; likely due to an empathetic nature and a clear mind when it comes to offering good advice. Perhaps by working on your problem areas, you can become more confident in dealing with your own emotions and those of others.
After reading my results I was partly surprised. For the past two months I have been going through various dramatic emotional changes that I thought would have affected the results of the EQ test but surprisingly did not. Instead, the report came out to be that my emotional intelligence was that of an average person. Due to these results, I am skeptical of the accuracy of the test. Is the test supposed to report on an individual’s EQ generally or momentarily? Nevertheless, I feel the results reported my EQ correctly. Furthering on, as reported in the results and by my own opinion, I do believe I have some work to do to develop my emotional intelligence. First off, I should stop letting things that disturb me do so to the point that I feel I cannot function. I sometimes let the smaller things in life affect the greater picture. Because of this I harm the people I love with my negative attitude. Also, I believe I should try to look at the more positive side of every situation so I do not fall into problem number one (mentioned above). Unfortunately, I feel as if I am going in a vicious circle that I cannot get out of repeatedly. Hopefully and certainly if I work on developing my emotional intelligence I will prevail in exiting the circle which will better my romantic, friendly, and family relationships and view of myself. Other than that, I would recommend people to take the test just to get an idea, an awareness of where they stand with their EQ. The test definitely gave me an idea of who I am though I already kind of figured it (probably due to my EQ level, right? Who knows?).
I think that one’s emotional quotient is most definitely detrimental in determining one’s rate of success because it represents one’s ability to react effectively to other people’s emotional responses. People who can understand not only their own emotions but can also demonstrate emotional empathy with people around them tend to be easier to relate and communicate with. According to the test on the blog my Subscale IQ score is 119 and my Subscale Emotional Percentile is 90. The report said that my score was in the high average range of emotional quotient, and that I can effectively use my emotional intelligence to deal with problems, establish relationships, lend emotional support, and give advice. However, the personal report mentioned that there are ways that I can increase my personal EQ.
I began to evaluate my current status in regards to EQ, in order to think of ways to increase my EQ. I want to be a marriage councilor one day, so it is important to max out my EQ to create a complete empathy with my clients. I think that as of now I am exceptionally good at relating and communicating with people because I have encountered a fair share of emotional situations. One way that I can increase my EQ is to continue to experience life’s situations, in order to analyze emotional responses experienced during these episodes. This strategy is the only way to increase emotional wisdom, and maintain an up to date form of communication. I pride myself on being able to give great advice when people present me with their problems, but I think that I can get better at that by being more open to give advice. I was considering getting involved with a peer mediation group or just remind my friends they can always come to me with their problems. I have a nag of putting my own problems before my friends, but to truly relate to them I feel as though I should make their problems my own. I am not saying that I should let my friend’s problems prevent me from dealing with my own problems, but set their problems a little more important than irrelevant to my life.
I believe that I have come a long way with my communication skills. When I was a kid I was very shy, and now I seem to be more of an extroverted person. Being able to understand why people behave the way they do is another big advancement I have made. I think many people naturally gain a broader understanding of the way people behave, and naturally learn new ways to deal with a large range of personality. I have learned a lot about people and the mind of the female gender through romantic relationships. I think that aspect of life is very important in learning the appropriate ways of dealing with the opposite gender, even when not trying to interact with them in a romantic fashion.
Subscale IQ score = 127
Subscale percentile = 96
According to your self-report answers, your emotional intelligence is good. People who score like you do feel that they have little trouble understanding and dealing with their own emotions and those of others. They generally are able to overcome difficulties in their lives and they are able to control their moods in all but the most trying of times. It’s easy for them to motivate themselves to overcome obstacles and reach their goals. In addition, they find social interactions to be quite easy and fulfilling, for several reasons. They are comfortable allowing themselves to get close with others, and feel comfortable being vulnerable enough to establish intimacy. They also report having an easy time offering support to others; this is likely due to an empathetic nature and a clear mind when it comes to offering good advice
Although it said that I have a very good EQ, I still think that I need to improve. I think that I need to improve on patience. I often have the problem of getting frustrated when certain people are talking about something that I am not interested in and continue to go on about it. While it is rude to walk away or interrupt them, I often find myself wanting to. I have a certain friend of whom I get very frustrated with. I am going to try very hard to understand her better and think about where she comes from. I see her often enough to put this strategy to work often throughout the next couple weeks. Hope full I can improve on the EQ.
The other improvement that I believe that I need to work on is listening. This kind of goes hand and hand with patience. It is often when I am listening to someone that I become impatient with. I am going to try and work on this with my mom. She often calls to check in on me asking how college is, and it gets very annoying when she goes on and on to something I already know or don’t particulary care about. I am going to now pay special attention to what she has to say and try to understand why it is I find it so hand to listen to her.
Self-report Component
Subscale IQ score = 114
Subscale percentile = 84
According to your self-report answers, your emotional intelligence is average. People who score like you do feel that their ability to understand and deal with their own emotions and those of others is acceptable but could still use some improvement. Emotionally intelligent people have an easy time overcoming difficulties in their lives and they are generally able to control their moods. It’s easy for them to motivate themselves to overcome obstacles and reach their goals. In addition, they find social interactions to be quite easy and fulfilling, for several reasons. They are comfortable allowing themselves to get close with others, and feel comfortable being vulnerable enough to establish intimacy. They also report having an easy time offering support to others; likely due to an empathetic nature and a clear mind when it comes to offering good advice. Perhaps by working on your problem areas, you can become more confident in dealing with your own emotions and those of others.
For the most part I agree with this conclusion of my emotional intelligence however I do not feel that it is easy to get myself motivated. Lately I’ve been having a hard time with getting motivated and that is one of my top personal EQ improvements that I need to make in my life and with my adjustment to college life. I feel that part of the reason I don’t feel motivated is because I am not comfortable nor settled into this new lifestyle yet. I intend to make myself more motivated by trying to make myself understand that I need to get through college in order to have a nice life and to make my goals a reality.
My report also says that I have an empathetic nature and I find social interactions to be quite easy. I agree with these to statements but lately I feel that I am not myself. I am not as outgoing as I once was, and I also am not as caring as I used to be. The second thing I’m going to work on is being caring. Now that I am in a new environment and I only have a few friends it is hard for me to be out going. My whole life in school I was with the same group of friends I went to pre-school with. Now everything has changed and it’s hard to make new friends because honestly I don’t care about new people I never had to make new friends before and now I have to. I am going to try to work on this problem by trying to care about other people and try to reach out to others so that I can be more social and successful.
Score: 94
According to your self-report answers, your emotional intelligence is slightly below average. People who score like you do feel that their ability to understand and deal with their own emotions and those of others is just barely acceptable. Emotionally intelligent people have an easy time overcoming difficulties in their lives and they are generally able to control their moods. It’s easy for them to motivate themselves to overcome obstacles and reach their goals. In addition, they find social interactions to be quite easy and fulfilling, for several reasons. They are comfortable allowing themselves to get close with others, and feel comfortable being vulnerable enough to establish intimacy. They also report having an easy time offering support to others; likely due to an empathetic nature and a solid ability to offer advice. Perhaps by working on your problem areas, you can become more confident in dealing with your own emotions and those of others.
Reaction: My EQ test results are somewhat true and somewhat not. I am able to read people very well and my intuition is very strong. I can tell within a few minutes of talking to someone what kind of person they are and mostly every time I am right. I know that I need to work on patience and time management. I am a huge procrastinator, yet I always get my work done. I am defiantly going to make an attempt to manage my time in a way that I can space out my work load so I am not stressing over it all the time. I am also a very impatient person which also stresses me out. I need to learn to relax and go with the flow.
Subscale IQ score = 114
Subscale percentile = 84
According to your self-report answers, your emotional intelligence is average. People who score like you do feel that their ability to understand and deal with their own emotions and those of others is acceptable but could still use some improvement. Emotionally intelligent people have an easy time overcoming difficulties in their lives and they are generally able to control their moods. It’s easy for them to motivate themselves to overcome obstacles and reach their goals. In addition, they find social interactions to be quite easy and fulfilling, for several reasons. They are comfortable allowing themselves to get close with others, and feel comfortable being vulnerable enough to establish intimacy. They also report having an easy time offering support to others; likely due to an empathetic nature and a clear mind when it comes to offering good advice. Perhaps by working on your problem areas, you can become more confident in dealing with your own emotions and those of others.
My top two personal EQ improvements are to allow myself to trust and open up to people, and to not push people away when I feel myself getting close to them. It takes me a long time to trust people and open up to them because I always feel like they will eventually use what I tell them against me. Once I do get close to someone, I end up pushing myself away from them for no specific reason. I think I do this because it is what I am used to having done to me by important people in my life such as my dad. I am currently making a plan so that I could stop pushing people away and make strong, long lasting friendships. I am going to start by talking to some of my close friends whenever something is on my mind. Once I see if I can trust them I will eventually open up a lot more and not push them away. I know that this process will take a lot of work and won’t happen from one day to another but I think it will be very beneficial to me in the future.
Snapshot Report
Self-report Component
Subscale IQ score = 110
Subscale percentile = 77
According to your self-report answers, your emotional intelligence is average. People who score like you do feel that their ability to understand and deal with their own emotions and those of others is acceptable but could still use some improvement. Emotionally intelligent people have an easy time overcoming difficulties in their lives and they are generally able to control their moods. It’s easy for them to motivate themselves to overcome obstacles and reach their goals. In addition, they find social interactions to be quite easy and fulfilling, for several reasons. They are comfortable allowing themselves to get close with others, and feel comfortable being vulnerable enough to establish intimacy. They also report having an easy time offering support to others; likely due to an empathetic nature and a clear mind when it comes to offering good advice. Perhaps by working on your problem areas, you can become more confident in dealing with your own emotions and those of others.
After taking the self EQ test and reading the results, I feel they are pretty accurate. I was never one to confront emotions of others, much less my own head on. In some situations I feel more comfortable than others; it’s a matter of who is there and how they are all feeling too. In the past I feel that I was better suited to read people's emotions and how to console them if they were feeling depressed or lonely. As I got older, I became less patient with these kinds of habits because I wouldn't really know how to express even my own emotions. My two areas that I feel I need the most improvement are how I express my own emotions as well as dealing with them. I tend to be the person that will deal with my issues alone rather than have to always share it with someone to see what they have to say about it. I prefer that sense of self-dependency as opposed to leaning on others for support. There is nothing wrong with having others there to share how they feel and support you, I just have to learn it and not be so stubborn. My other area of improvement could be how I deal with others. I thought I was still able to help others and read them. According to the test, I was just doing the minimum and felt it was enough. From now on, I will be a better judge of character and will have to monitor my own feelings slightly more in order to help people feel comfortable around me. Socially, I am very comfortable and relaxed at all times. I can open up to anyone and allow myself to get very comfortable. Overall, I need to find a better way to deal with my own problems. By doing so then it is possible that I will be able to deal and help others with their emotions. The test seems somewhat accurate, but cannot be an excellent judge of anyone’s emotions.
Self-report Component
Subscale IQ score = 100
Subscale percentile = 53
I always thought that I was an emotionally intelligent person. I thought that I could control my emotions pretty well and that I did not let them get the best of me. In class we were asked to rate out EQ from 1-100 and I gave my self an 80 but when we took the mini quiz, I scored a 40! I was shocked and worried. The test that I took on Queendom.com, made me feel a little bit better because I scored better but still below average. After awhile of pondering, I figured out what I have to do to bring my EQ higher. When I get mad or upset I don’t think about anything else but what I am feeling and that makes me angrier. When I ever I get this way, I have to fight the fog in my mind and think, “Is this really worth me getting upset over? Am I over reacting? How can I fix this problem in a calm and systematic way?” I know that these questions will get me on the right path again. I have not improved on my EQ because I got into a fight this weekend and nothing got fixed at all. I know that fighting does not fix anything but I am not emotionally strong yet to hold my self back from showing a bad EQ. I have to improve on finding different ways to show my emotion, especially in a proactive way. To do this I am going to master the 10 ways to “Managing Emotion” from the notes in class. My first step is to observe my behavior. I did not even know that I was emotionally unintelligent so by observing my behavior I can pick up what I am doing wrong and find ways to fix them. I have a lot to work on but I know that with time I will be able to work up my emotional intelligence.
Subscale IQ Score = 70
Subscale percentile = 2
After taking the Emotional Intelligence test I really was not that surprised that my results were poor. However, some of the things I do not agree with. The first thing the test results read is that, “People who score like you do feel that they have trouble dealing with their own emotions and those of others.” I never thought that I had problems dealing with my emotions. I do tend to keep any type of negative emotion to myself but that’s just because I’m comfortable doing that and I feel that is what works best for me. The other half of the sentence is true though. I do feel that I do not know how to deal with the emotion of others. That is something I would need to improve on. Most of the time I feel this way because sometimes what someone is going through, I have never gone through before which is why I do not know how to empathize. I would not even know how to begin to improve this.
Another part of the test result that stuck out was, “In addition, they find social interactions quite difficult, for several reasons.” This I can agree with. At first, I am very shy and nervous in social situations. I don’t really know why. My siblings—all of them—are the completely opposite and have no problems interacting with others. I think it might stem from lack of confidence and all that type of things. So the only way I can think to improve is to have more confidence in myself and the things that I do. Also, I think I’m just a naturally shy and slightly introverted person. However, I am working on that and I feel that I am already changing—little by little.
The other big thing the results mentioned was that, “They may have trouble allowing themselves to get close with others, finding it difficult to be vulnerable enough to establish intimacy.” I think because I tend not to trust people is the reason why I do not let myself to get close them. My best friend, whom I have known since elementary school, does not even know my deepest secrets and I still do not trust her enough to share them. I also won’t even tell my family things. I am a private person and don’ t really like sharing my feelings with other people. I really do not know how to improve this. I will try to work on it but trusting people is very hard for me and it will probably be a long time before I’m really improved from it.
I am glad I took this quiz though. It’s weird to take a test like this and see the results come out to almost exactly how you are. I think by seeing it though, really put it in my face and showed me that I need to improve on certain areas of myself when it comes to emotions. Now I know that I need to change these things. Before I used to just accept them.
Subscale IQ score: 144
Subscale Percentile: 99.87
Even before taking this test I’ve always considered myself pretty good when it came to interpreting and dealing with both my emotions and the emotions of others. In today’s society it is absolutely necessary to be emotionally intelligent. After our class discussions and reading the article on having emotional intelligence I’ve come to realize that you won’t get very far without a good EQ. There were several examples in which people would get promotions and good jobs but wouldn’t be able to maintain them. Being able to relate to others in a way that makes everyone comfortable is a priceless skill these days, yet many seem to take it for granted. I know that in order for me to be as successful in life as I want to be I’m going to need to be good at relating to others regardless of my profession.
When I took the mini-test during class I scored a 64. This was nowhere near the score that I expected for myself. That just proved to me that I’m not as good a listener as I thought I was. Even though the score that I received on the test form Queendom.com was pretty good I know that I still need to improve my listening skills greatly. Having good listening skills is a major part of establishing and maintaining good relationships. I admit that two areas I need improvement in are “listening beyond distractions” and “not selectively paying attention.” I admit that I am a person who is easily distracted and this sometimes affects the way I listen and perceive things around me. I also sometimes choose what I want to pay attention to based on my interest level. I realize now that these are bad habits that should be broken sooner than later.
Once I am able to improve in those areas there is no doubt in my mind that my ability to read and connect with others will improve as well.
Tiffany Ervin (2:20 class)
Subscale IQ score: 139
Subscale Percentile: 99.62
The definition of Emotional intelligence is the way that a person controls their emotions. “EIQ tests predict first-year college grades, success at work, and the amount of distress experienced in reaction to serious illness, among many other things.” A person can be brilliant but if that person has very low emotional intelligence then that person has to learn to be more respectful, control their anger, and even express themselves more. When talking about EQ people tend to think about people who are disrespectful and loud but being really shy is actually a quality that a lot of people have that doesn’t let them accomplish their goals. When you can’t express yourself because you are shy then how would your teachers, family, or bosses will be able to know you, if you do not let them into your life. There would be no progression if that person were to stay shy and closed hearted. Reading my self- report answers my emotional intelligence is excellent. With my score it says that I have no trouble dealing with my feeling and the feelings of others. People who have my score are able to cop and control their moods. I feel like I can reach any goal that I set my mind to and I don’t ever think that I can not do anything. I am a person who allows people to come into my life and I open my heart to a lot of things that other people do not want to deal with at all. People usually tell me that I do give good advice and having my emotional intelligence test tell me the same thing I know that it’s true. Even though I have good emotional intelligence there still are things that I have to work on. For example, I went to the store and in a polite voice I said excuse me please and the gentleman said no and stayed in my path. In my head I’m saying that I want him to taste a piece of my mind but instead I stood there waiting for him to excuse himself. Before he excused himself, I was going to tell the manager about him and the way he acted towards his costumers. So, what I really have to work on is patience with people, because if that gentleman took a little longer I really don’t know what I would have got myself into. During class there was something that was said that really stuck to me that actually relates to my situation at the store. The statement goes as follows, “Don’t argue with a fool cause then you don’t know the difference between the two of you.”
To mange a relationship you need 80 percent EQ and 20 percent IQ. So what is brilliances without emotional intelligence? Nothing, because if you can’t communicate who you are respectfully then no one will know your brilliant.
Subscale IQ score = 116
Subscale percentile = 86
According to your self-report answers, your emotional intelligence is average. People who score like you do feel that their ability to understand and deal with their own emotions and those of others is acceptable but could still use some improvement. Emotionally intelligent people have an easy time overcoming difficulties in their lives and they are generally able to control their moods. It’s easy for them to motivate themselves to overcome obstacles and reach their goals. In addition, they find social interactions to be quite easy and fulfilling, for several reasons. They are comfortable allowing themselves to get close with others, and feel comfortable being vulnerable enough to establish intimacy. They also report having an easy time offering support to others; likely due to an empathetic nature and a clear mind when it comes to offering good advice. Perhaps by working on your problem areas, you can become more confident in dealing with your own emotions and those of others.
I was not suprised at my score for the Emotional Intelligence test. In general, I consider myself good at handling my emotions and, as it said in my Emotional Intelligence report, “have an easy time overcoming difficulties.” When it comes to other people, I like to think that I can interpret from what they say, or what they don’t say, what kind of mood a person is in. But like also in my report, I feel as though that I could do better. There are times when people come to me for advice and I have absolutely no idea what to do or say. I come up with a “dry spell” and I say what I think are useless words to try to alleviate the situation, but not necessarily the person’s feelings. That is the main thing that I would like to improve on. I would like to not only be the type of person who can sit and listen, offer support, and validate a friend’s feelings, but also give a solution. I figure that if I can overcome my own difficulties as my report says, I suppose that I should be able to do the same and help someone else with theirs.
After taking the EQ test, I learned that I have an average EQ. This is not exactly what I was expecting. I was expecting to actually be a bit above average because I usually have very high emotions when it comes to others as well as me. The results told me that dealing with my own moods and others moods, needs improvement which is not was I was expecting. Usually, I am the friend everyone comes to for advice and I’m pretty good at handling my emotions (so I thought). My results did tell me that I am quick to offer good advice which is true but it made it seem as though my advice has no thought process involved. If using this test as a reference I guess to improve my EQ, I could definitely become a better listener and ask for help from others when I need it. I would also think everything through more and continue to help others. The results also told me that I feel comfortable around others easily, and that I agree with because I am very easy to get along with and very friendly. According to my outcome, it says that I am very vulnerable and naïve; therefore, I should not easy trust people nor get too close to people too easily.
Subscale IQ score = 97
Subscale percentile = 45
According to your self-report answers, your emotional intelligence is slightly below average. People who score like you do feel that their ability to understand and deal with their own emotions and those of others is just barely acceptable. Emotionally intelligent people have an easy time overcoming difficulties in their lives and they are generally able to control their moods. It’s easy for them to motivate themselves to overcome obstacles and reach their goals. In addition, they find social interactions to be quite easy and fulfilling, for several reasons. They are comfortable allowing themselves to get close with others, and feel comfortable being vulnerable enough to establish intimacy. They also report having an easy time offering support to others; likely due to an empathetic nature and a solid ability to offer advice. Perhaps by working on your problem areas, you can become more confident in dealing with your own emotions and those of others.
I have to admit that I was very surprised when I saw my test result. I barely accept my own emotions. I love to help others with their problems yet, I am not able to solve my own. I believe that people that have a high EQ are able to manage their lives in a positive and healthy way. One have to be self motivate in order to motivate others. However, I do not fully agree on some of the results of my test. “ Feel comfortable being vulnerable enough to establish intimacy.” I believe that this statement does not apply to my personality. When someone has a high EQ, this person is able to deliver a positive affect to others. To improve my EQ, I am planning on busting up my confident and have a more positive affect on my self. This will help me become a better person. Now I am starting a new chapter in my life “ College” so this is a great opportunity to start putting into practice good EQ stratergies.
Score:78
Description According to your self-report answers, your emotional intelligence is very poor. People who score like you do feel that they have trouble dealing with their own emotions and those of others. They struggle to overcome difficulties in their lives and they are unable to control their moods. It’s hard for them to understand how best to motivate themselves and reach their goals. In addition, they find social interactions quite difficult, for several reasons. They may have trouble allowing themselves to get close with others, finding it difficult to be vulnerable enough to establish intimacy. They also report having trouble offering support to others, likely due to the fact that they do not understand where others are coming from or they lack ideas about how best to help. Perhaps by working on your problem areas, you can become more confident in dealing with your own emotions and those of others.
My thoughts: I think the test is accurate because I think that I am emotionally immature. I do not express my feelings very well verbally. I try not to get emotionally attached to things such as relationships. I really don’t have problems helping other people with their problems. I actually have suggestions for others in need of problems with relationships but my emotions are not strong enough for me to react sufficiently to the situation.
The test on the blog stated that I had a subscale IQ score of 103, and a subscale percentile of 58. According to the test my emotional intelligence is below average. The test said that “emotionally intelligent people have an easy time overcoming difficulties in their lives and they are generally able to control their moods”. If this is true, then I would have to agree and say that I am not emotionally intelligent. In my life, I have had to overcome many difficulties when I was just a child. Having to deal with these tragedies was unfair at a young age and it affected my emotional intelligence. My problem area is that I have to be able to understand and deal with my emotions. Growing up I was taught the opposite; “never show your emotion because it shows your weakness”. Now knowing that I am below average, I can begin to work on improving that. I am going to try and keep a journal where I will write down what I am feeling. Doing so, I believe I can understand what my emotions are and where they are coming from. After learning to control my own emotions, I will be able to better understand the emotions of others. I will be able to comprehend and get along better with my peers. On a positive note, the test did say that it is easy to motivate myself and reach for my goals. I found that to be very true. I take pride in being able to have motivation and determination. I always thought of myself as someone who was assertive and drive. That is why this test really shocked me. I thought that I had a decent level of emotional intelligence. I guess I thought that way because I never fully understood emotional intelligence. This test really opened my eyes, and now I see what emotional intelligence is. Emotion is a big part of life. If I want to be successful and happy, I am going to have to learn how to recognize my emotions and deal with them. I can no longer burry my emotions and pretend they don’t exist.
Score: 96
Percentile: 39
For my emotional intelligence quiz I find a lot of it to be true, while some of it I need to work on. It said my emotional intelligence is slightly below average. It mentioned that people who score like I did feel as though their ability to understand and deal with their emotions and those of others is just barely acceptable. I find this to be true because I usually just deal with my problems on my own I never really look to people for help or advice. It says that I would have an easy time overcoming difficulties in my live and generally I would be able to control my moods. I think this is true, I feel as though I am usually good at hiding my emotions and that other people can’t read what I’m thinking. I’m usually good at hiding my moods, like if I’m sad I feel as though I can hide it for the most part. This isn’t such a good quality to have because everything that does bother me will just stay inside and never come out so it will always be in the back of my mind. This is one thing I feel as though I should work on to improve my emotional intelligence. It mentioned how social interactions are easy and fulfilling because they are comfortable with allowing themselves to get close to others. I feel this to be false because I’m usually very shy when I meet people so I don’t really like social interactions where I don’t know the people. I believe that I done allow myself to get close to people because I have a hard time trusting people. That is another thing I realized I should work on to improve my emotional intelligence.
Also at the end it said that by working on your problems you can be confident in dealing with your emotion and those of others. I do feel that if I work on issues I have and become more open it can help me to deal with emotions of others. Taking this emotional intelligence quiz taught me a lot about myself. It was things I already knew I did but it helped me to see that I should try to improve on these things. There were certain things the test told me that I feel if I work on I can become better at opening up to people and becoming more comfortable being around people I don’t really know. Personal goals of mine from taking this quiz are to definitely try to improve on the areas where it seemed I needed help.
Self-report Component
Subscale IQ score = 126
Subscale percentile = 96
According to your self-report answers, your emotional intelligence is good. People who score like you do feel that they have little trouble understanding and dealing with their own emotions and those of others. They generally are able to overcome difficulties in their lives and they are able to control their moods in all but the most trying of times. It’s easy for them to motivate themselves to overcome obstacles and reach their goals. In addition, they find social interactions to be quite easy and fulfilling, for several reasons. They are comfortable allowing themselves to get close with others, and feel comfortable being vulnerable enough to establish intimacy. They also report having an easy time offering support to others; this is likely due to an empathetic nature and a clear mind when it comes to offering good advice.
After taking this EIQ test I realized the test perfectly described me. I do have trouble dealing with my emotions, I tend to quickly get angry over the littlest things for example while taking this test I left my dorm room and when I returned my laptop had turned off and I was on the 97th question, instead of sitting down and taking it over I was furious and began to curse and use profanity. I feel that I need to learn to control my emotions because many of my friends and colleagues say I have a strong personality and what I do can intimidate people. In actuality I am the nicest person I care for others, if someone needs something I would try my best to meet there needs if they are realistic because I am not superman. Other than that the test broke down a blueprint of what I need to work on and I will begin my path to becoming a better emotional person.
Before the evaluation I said that my emotional intelligence was very high. My EQ is, I would say lower than others, I struggle with the concept of knowing when it is appropriate to display my emotions . I also have trouble with staying away from people when they are upset. When my friends or family get angry I tend to stay near them in hopes that I will make them feel better. I end up getting hurt emotionally after extending my stay with them. I need to realize when it is a good time to communicate with people going through different emotions. My strong point is I know when people are upset , happy, sad, confused, frustrated, and so on. I always know when my friends are going through something. The problem with me is I know how they are feeling but I do not know how to respond to them when they have feelings that represent negativity. I need to learn how to deal with different emotions between myself and others. The test helped me to realize that in order to develop a high emotional intelligence I have to learn the emotions that people feel on a regular basis and to cope with them.
Emotional Intelligence is having the ability to be sincere and caring towards others. It is being able to associate thoughts and feelings with both people and oneself. When I took the test I did not acquire an adequate score. In fact, I scored slightly below average and within the thirty-second percentile. Thus, illustrating that much improvement is quite needed. One of the main things I need improvement on is my confidence. I need to obtain the ability of being sure of myself and having faith. I need to become sure of myself and not doubt so much. In order to overcome this obstacle I will try to just e me and take the world head on with the inclusion of my voice. Another issue that the test claims I have is that I do not know how to deal with my emotions. Meaning, I am not very good at expressing myself, and I just keep everything bottled up inside. However, I will try and conquer this issue as well. How so, I will try and be more open so a sense of comfort could build up inside of me. I will try to talk and express myself more so I can stop with the shelterness. Emotional Intelligence is n important trait to have. It allows you to build up relationships and help you advance throughout life. Yes, being academically intelligent is important but what about the heart.
sub Scale IQ Score 87
According to your self-report answers, your emotional intelligence is somewhat poor. People who score like you may at times feel that they have trouble dealing with their own emotions and those of others. They sometimes struggle to overcome difficulties in their lives and they are not always able to control their moods. It may be hard for them to understand how best to motivate themselves to overcome obstacles and reach their goals. In addition, they find social interactions difficult at times, for several reasons. They may have trouble allowing themselves to get close with others, finding it difficult to be vulnerable enough to establish intimacy or perhaps lacking understanding of, or comfort with, social interactions. Perhaps by working on your problem areas, you can become more confident in dealing with your own emotions and those of others.
Snap Report
Self-report
Subscale IQ score= 120
Subscale percentile= 91
According to your self-report answers, your emotional intelligence is good. People who score like you do feel that they have little trouble understanding and dealing with their own emotions and those of others. They generally are able to overcome difficulties in their lives and they are able to control their moods in all but the most trying of times. It’s easy for them to motivate themselves to overcome obstacles and reach their goals. In addition, they find social interactions to be quite easy and fulfilling, for several reasons. They are comfortable allowing themselves to get close with others, and feel comfortable being vulnerable enough to establish intimacy. They also report having an easy time offering support to others; this is likely due to an empathetic nature and a clear mind when it comes to offering good advice.
I found this to be surprisingly correct. I am a person who allows people to get close to me. I don’t feel like I should isolate myself from everyone when I am a friendly person. At first I thought this was not going to be accurate because the questions were so board. It was a typical survey and usually they don’t come out precise. However, there are some things I don’t quite agree with. I usually don’t know how to control my emotions. If for some reason I feel like I need to cry, it doesn’t matter where or when, I cry. I can’t help show my emotions through my face and body language. I tend to give good advice to others and I always find a solution to my problems. Aside from that, everything was exactly how I am and my EQ score is where I thought it would be. Good to know I know myself well.
Subscale IQ Score = 98
Subscale Percentile = 47
According to your self-report answers, your emotional intelligence is slightly below average. People who score like you do feel that their ability to understand and deal with their own emotions and those of others is just barely acceptable. Emotionally intelligent people have an easy time overcoming difficulties in their lives and they are generally able to control their moods. It’s easy for them to motivate themselves to overcome obstacles and reach their goals. In addition, they find social interactions to be quite easy and fulfilling, for several reasons. They are comfortable allowing themselves to get close with others, and feel comfortable being vulnerable enough to establish intimacy. They also report having an easy time offering support to others; likely due to an empathetic nature and a solid ability to offer advice. Perhaps by working on your problem areas, you can become more confident in dealing with your own emotions and those of others.
I'm not surprised that I scored slightly below average. I don't read people's emotions well and nor do I know what to say to help others feel better. I have issues with dealing with my own issues and feelings and I believe that one can't help another untill they can help themselves. I do however believe that I look out for myself because I believe no one else will. I strive for the best and nothing else and I only invision myself achieving great things. This test didn't tell me anything I didn't know, however it reassured me on things I already knew.
Subscale IQ score = 89
Subscale percentile = 25
According to your self-report answers, your emotional intelligence is very poor. People who score like you do feel that they have trouble dealing with their own emotions and those of others. They struggle to overcome difficulties in their lives and they are unable to control their moods. It’s hard for them to understand how best to motivate themselves and reach their goals. In addition, they find social interactions quite difficult, for several reasons. They may have trouble allowing themselves to get close with others, finding it difficult to be vulnerable enough to establish intimacy. They also report having trouble offering support to others, likely due to the fact that they do not understand where others are coming from or they lack ideas about how best to help. Perhaps by working on your problem areas, you can become more confident in dealing with your own emotions and those of others.
Reaction: I was not shocked when I received my scores. I basically agree with my results. I usually have an issue in controlling and dealing with my emotions. I have a difficult time in positively consuming my issues and problems. It is weird that the result indicated that I can not deal with people and their feelings which is not true. I usually find myself struggling to undertake and accept my moods. Meanwhile, I can easily motivate myself which is completely false. I can easily offer support to others and I do not lack help on how to encourage others. One thing I learned from this EQ test is that I need to learn how to attack my problems yet I don’t because I don’t care at times.
Self-report Component
Subscale IQ score = 55
Subscale percentile = 0.13
According to your self-report answers, your emotional intelligence is very poor. People who score like you do feel that they have trouble dealing with their own emotions and those of others. They struggle to overcome difficulties in their lives and they are unable to control their moods. It's hard for them to understand how best to motivate themselves and reach their goals. In addition, they find social interactions quite difficult, for several reasons. They may have trouble allowing themselves to get close with others, finding it difficult to be vulnerable enough to establish intimacy. They also report having trouble offering support to others, likely due to the fact that they do not understand where others are coming from or they lack ideas about how best to help. Perhaps by working on your problem areas, you can become more confident in dealing with your own emotions and those of others.
Reaction: I was very shocked when I received my results because I did not know or did not want to realize this but I usually have an issue in controlling and dealing with my emotions. I have a difficult time controling my moods especially when I get mad. It is weird that the result indicated that I can not deal with people and their feelings which is not true. I usually find myself helping my friends with everything. One thing I learned from this EQ test is that I need to learn how to attack my problems yet I don’t because I don’t care at times.
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